මගේ කැල්ල 01

If a woman gets a satisfying sexual intercourse with her husband, it is enough for her to overcome every adverse situation. It is completely different and unique from all other relationships in the world. A man and a woman can share happiness and sorrow with anyone in their life, but this aspect of **physical connection** makes only the husband-wife relationship special. It is a bond that connects them to each other emotionally and physically. At the beginning of our marriage, my husband and I were extremely close to each other. Being together day and night, talking for hours and hugging each other had become our whole world. But as time passed, everything slowly started changing. It is said that when something is easily and repeatedly available, its importance starts decreasing. After about five years of marriage, I realized that I was no longer as interested in physical relations as before. My husband did not understand this change. He thought that I was deliberately making excuses or ignoring them. We talked less, and his attitude also changed from before. He started avoiding things, and his face often showed anger. To understand this change, I met a doctor and told him my situation honestly. “If you love your husband, understand him, because this is what he wants,” the doctor said. At that moment, a question arose in my mind. Aren’t a wife’s feelings and desires important? Is he only there to fulfill the needs of others? After a while, I fell ill. Fever, body aches, and the rainy season confined me to bed. My husband not only took me to the doctor and gave me medicine, but also came home and cooked me food. When I woke up the next day, I saw him preparing breakfast by himself, and then went to the office without any complaints. I was in bed for a whole week, and they took care of me the same way every day, including food, medicine, office work, and household chores. At that moment, something changed in me. I thought, while I was relaxing in the air conditioning, he was exercising, riding a bike in the heat, dealing with stress, and still taking care of me without any complaints. This experience was an eye-opener for me. I had been putting off saying 'my will', and he could have been an important part of our relationship. I realized that love is not just a feeling but also a responsibility. When I got better, I took the initiative, and we started getting closer again. Now I understand that a relationship can only be strong if both parties understand each other's needs and feelings equally. The husband should care about the wife's feelings, and the wife should also understand the importance of the husband's physical needs. Only when there is this balance in a relationship can love exist. Many couples today face similar problems. Often we let our will prevail over the needs of the relationship, which increases the distance. If you are going through a similar phase, stop and think for a moment... Maybe the initiative to maintain the relationship should come from your side. Trust me, when you try, everything will slowly start to get back to normal. #ruwannishshanka #colombo